Diary of a Closet Freak

Did anyone see the Kirk Pornlin–oops–(Franklin) interview last week on Oprah? He claims he’s addicted to pornography, and feels that we all needed to share his pain. Whatever. Let’s be honest blogosphere- isn’t everyone addicted to pornography? I don’t see what the problem is if a grown man likes to look at naked women on the computer on occasion or if he likes watching grown people fornicating on a flick every now and then. As long as children aren’t involved and everyone is legally consenting- what is the big deal?

It’s not like he was physcially cheating on his wife. He was trying to share it with her, but she wasn’t having it. I personally think that it was his wife who caused his little vice to blow up into a big problem. If she had been a little more open-minded about it and willing to watch a flick or two with her man, he wouldn’t have gotten to the point where he felt like he had to hide it and been digging in dumpsters and all that in the middle of the night. The problem he really seemed to be having was leading the secret life because he was trying to conceal everything from his wife- not that pornography had damaged him in some way.

This is not to say I am advocating signing up on every internet porn site or buying hundrends of videos. Everything in moderation. On some level, we all have bad habits/vices. Some people smoke cigarettes or the ‘la’. Others spent countless hours in front of ESPN, FSN, NBA TV, and CSS. Still others spent an inordinate amount of time on the computer. Some spend half their life on the cell phone. Basically everyone has something they do for relaxation or stimulation. As long as it isn’t causing isolation and isn’t ruling a person’s life and finances…I say do your thang.
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I’m back to blogging now that I have returned from my holiday hiatus. A lovely hiatus which I spent with lots of family in the northeast. I enjoyed seeing the aunts and uncles and many of the first and second cousins, whom I only get to see a few times a year. One thing that struck me is that some of the cousins are a whole lot finer than they used to be when we were growing up…like damn, I didn’t realize you were quite that tall, or cuz, you’ve put on some thickness and aren’t quite as skinny as you used to be…We reminisced about the days when our elders would just put us in the tub together to give us a bath…lol. Or the days we would sleep in the same bed as kids. Can’t go there now- let’s just say that.
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