Sex on the 1st Date
I wonder what men and women these days think about having sex on the first date? I’m in a relationship now, but just in case I do decide to make a move, I need to be up on current dating etiquette. Now as far as puckering up goes, I have always been a girl who kissed on the first date because that is a fail-proof chemistry test. And to be perfectly honest, I don’t care how smart, fine and paid a nigga is, if he can’t kiss right, going out again is just wasting each other’s time. I can’t take slobber, bad breathe or teeth bumping into mine, but I love when a guy has soft full lips and can make my heart beat faster while we mesh our tongues . If his tongue in my mouth alone, can get the juices flowing to the my kitty, then I’ve always known that we were in business, at least on the attraction tip. But the more mature and kinky I get, the more I am beginning to believe that I need more information upfront.
I’ve picked up a few new interests and now I am considering tinkering with my first date chemistry experiment and taking it alittle farther. I guess that would actually be taking it ‘all the way’. I’m no longer sure if just kissing will tell me what I need to know. The policy may need to change from always kissing on the first date to getting an actual taste of the luving on the opening night. That way I can make a fully informed decision about the pleasure potential. Of course, I am not saying I don’t care about other issues such as his education, career, and personality- I am just addressing the issue of sexual satisfaction at the moment. That stuff comes next.
So anyway, I once almost did give it up in a black corvette in a parking lot on the first date…but in the end, I managed to hold out, not cuz I wanted to, but only because I wasn’t sure what he would think of me the next day. Now, I am older, wiser and freakier. I am not sure that I even want to play those games anymore. I want to be free to have sex on the first date, if I feel like it, without the guy automatically writing me off as not being a keeper, and without the moral police opening an investigation into my lifestyle. I just don’t know if its realistic.
I mean really, why should it be a bigger deal if I only smooch on the first date or if I decide to actually have sex?
Master fucked me in the back of His Landcruiser the first time we ever met. He
sometimes asks me doesn’t it feel so good to know that i can be a whore and
to know that He does not think any less of me *giggle*. It really is a wonderful
feeling to know that He loves me in all my whorish glory!
Comment by aphrodite — November 3, 2005 @ 3:12 am
See- and that hasn’t messed you guys up in the least.
Comment by closetfreak — November 3, 2005 @ 9:20 pm
That’s one reason being a grown up is so nice, it means we can dispense with the Junior
High style games. If you are with a guy on a first date and you are both feeling it, why hold
back? If he likes you less for it then he certainly isn’t the kind of man who can embrace the
fact that you are good girl in the light of day but a naughty whore in the bedroom.
Comment by T in NYC — November 7, 2005 @ 5:07 pm
Sex on the first date is a lovely thing. I agree completely that you have to be attracted to a person before you can consider taking a commitment with them. I had sex on the 1st date and it lasted for 11 years. . The only downfall with sex on the 1st date is that it seems to set the tone of the relationship. I prefer tyo get the sex out of the way so that I can get to know a woman but I will always expect sex when I see her. Its unfortunate but not all women are closet freaks so when they start to change up on you, the fun is over.
Either way it goes, I’m a 1st dater!
Comment by cant TellYa — November 10, 2005 @ 4:12 am
I believe sex on the first date is a consenual agreement between the two parties. You shouldn’t
have different feelings toward that person in the mornig; afterall, you are as guilty and were as horny as the person you chose to sleep with. Me personally, I’ve had numerous accounts of one night love.
It never really amounted to anything, but it was fun while it lasted. I’ve never disrespected or
belittled a woman because of her choosing to give herself to me on the first date. I actually
feel honored knowing that what took some man time to get, I got with no problem.
Comment by Ray The Mack — March 3, 2007 @ 6:44 pm